In The Absence of Sex

Two years ago I attempted to explore a variety of dating and sexual encounters. It fizzled out quickly.  I was bored or unimpressed with the people involved.  I thought maybe it was me at first.  Then I realized I just didn't like the experience as much as I thought I would.  After years of so-so situation-ships and two failed long term relationships (One was extremely toxic), I felt that I needed to remove myself from any "adult" activities. 

During these last two years I did re-attempt some form of dating but failed.  The men I met only wanted sex or thought sex was a way to get to know someone.  Uhm, no sir, that is not how you get to know me.   I can't believe how many guys on social media go straight to dick pics after a few minutes of chatting.  SLOW DOWN DUDE!!  Men at bars or at other public places were so quick to want to hook up.  The few I gave my number to would text me way too much and get upset if I didn't respond right away.  Clingy much??  There were a few who were nice guys, but they were not a good fit for me.  The bad relationships strike again, seeing red flags early on when talking to men.  Yes, I am set in my ways and I may have too many deal breakers.  I keep telling myself to wait until I move next year.  I'll have better luck in a new place.  Will I really?  What are the chances?  I feel defeated here in this drug infected town.  The thought of "All the good ones are taken" comes to mind.  I know that's not true.  I think I'm just a pain in the ass and too lazy to try.

Interesting fact: I no longer have interest in sex.  I quit watching porn and boxed up my adult toys.  Yup, I am 100% sex free!!  Though I am proud of this, I do wonder if it has anything to do with my depression.  I can't remember the last time I had any "relief".  The only time I get the urge is at the end of my monthly cycle.  I take a nice long bath and I'm good.  Sex is good for you and helps you stay healthy.  Sometimes I wonder if my lack of desire is part of my health issues.  How does one go about finding out of that is the case?  I can't talk to my doctor about it.  So who do I go to?  Oh poop!! I forgot to schedule my pap and mammogram appointment.  Oopsy!!

Information Overload

  Since my doctors visit I have been trying to research different styles of healthier lifestyles.  I don't want a fad diet.  I need to change my habits for life.  There is an abundance of information. Everyone thinks they have the answer to all your fitness and diet needs.  Somehow everyone is an expert.  Almost every site I went to had some amazing life changing plan.  Everyone wants you to sign up for free information.  Okay, okay, I did sign up for a few.  There are so many fad diets and fix it all healthy lifestyles that I feel overwhelmed.  I wanted to give up; I haven't even started.  I watched videos, took notes, pinned, downloaded, and printed a ton of information to compile what might work for me.  I AM EXHAUSTED!!! Yup, it was a workout just weeding through all the websites and fitness gurus.  Any topic that drastically changed from one "expert" to the other I removed from my list of possibilities. I think I may have narrowed it down.  I know this is going to start with trial and error and be a long journey before I get it just right, for me.  I'm sure there will be something I find along the way that I may like better, but for now, I think I'll have a good start.  I'm still researching two key lifestyle plans to decide which one will be better in the long run.  I have a feeling I will be meshing them together in some way.  Probably add something crazy to the mix along the way. 
  I'm sure you're wondering what the heck I'm talking about.  My choices have come down to the Paleo and Keto diets.  I tried Keto before but cried when I gave up all the lovely carbs.  Sadly, I think I have no choice at this point.  I'm a bloated butter ball right now and I'm blaming all the carbs I eat.  I feel Paleo gives me more options, but Keto may be a better option.  I will try both, one at a time, for 30 days each.  I considered going 90 days but I might as well just keep going with my first choice, right?  In order to prepare for this transition, I am resetting my gut and adding intermittent fasting.  Actually, I've already started intermittent fasting by only eating during an 8 hour period. 
  I know this sounds extreme and crazy.  It's probably unhealthy too, at least right now.  But, I have been eating unhealthy for so long I need to do something.  During the next week, as I am resetting my gut, I will be doing more research and making a plan.  Paleo will most likely be my first choice.  It's seems easier. Seems... We'll see.  The number one thing I must do is keep a food journal.  I'm not worried about tracking calories.  I will attempt to track carbs, fat, and salt.  I have a few fitness apps on my phone to help me keep track, but I want to also write it down.  Writing makes me think about what I am doing and feeling.  It will give me the opportunity to hold myself accountable. 
  I know there is a slight chance these don't work for my body, but I'm willing to try. The information on healthy living is just crazy.  I'll also keep researching and learning new ways to live a healthier lifestyle.  I promise.


What Fad diets have you tried?  Do you have suggestions for other healthy lifestyles I may want to learn about? 

Facing The Facts: Living With Depression

11.06.2017

Today I thought deeply about how I am feeling.  I thought about what brought me to this point.  There is no straight answer.  There never is.  I don't know what started my journey down this road; I do know that ignoring my thoughts and feelings is how I'm here now.  I was working more than I should and just coming home to sleep and eat.  My days off would be running errands and doing chores.  I quit going out to watch sports because I didn't want to drink anymore.  I stayed home and watched Netflix and Youtube with the kids.  Of course, I would snack the whole time I was watching shows.  I always had beef jerky, Cheetos, and soda.  We were ordering fast food or dining out while running errands because I was "too tired" to cook.  I take full responsibility for what I've allowed to happen.  I ignored my mental health, I treated my body horribly, and I pushed myself to the edge of exhaustion.  There were signs and I even blogged about it earlier this year.  Yet I just let this monster grow within me.  I made a choice and now I have to fight to get back to a better mindset.

I am in constant pain, physically and mentally.  My joints are hurting, I'm overweight (167.6 pounds), I have headaches throughout the day.  I'm starting to get brain fog and becoming clumsy.  My blood work from my last doctors visit looks like my health may be declining.  I feel disgusted, defeated, and just plain DONE!  I wish I could crawl into bed and sleep for days, but I can barely sleep more than 2 hours at a time.  I know I need to figure out how to get out of this rut.  I know this isn't long term.  I'm working on it, little by little.  Day by day.

That's all I can do for now.  Take it one day at a time.


"There are two ways to be Happy: Change the situation, or change your mindset towards it"
-Unknown

It's November, Where is the Fall Weather?

Is it me or do we have some wacky weather?  I was hoping for more windy days and autumn leaves falling.  I wonder if we will get a lot of thunder storms this winter. 

My mind is cloudy and tired.  Actually exhausted is the better description.  My body aches, limbs numb or tingly, and I'm exhausted but can't sleep. I'm on the verge of a mental breakdown and my doctor says the only way to get better is to quit my job.  Yep, that was the main topic of my doctors appointment today.  I should find a less stressful job so I can focus on my health.  My white blood count is much higher than last year, and sadly so is my weight.  I am 167 lbs... AAHHH  No wonder my clothes don't fit and I feel like crap.  Also 23 and Me sent me an email informing me that Celiac disease is a possibility.  Not happy about that, but it explains a few things.  Maybe even my weight gain? 

Working midshifts will be the death of me. I have zero motivation, I'm stress eating, and can't sleep.  Yay me!

Now only if my favorite weather would hurry up and get here. I'd be in a better mood.

Trying To Get My Groove Back

It's been tough.  I have not had the desire to write.  Then when I do have inspiration, I'm at work with no time to stop and jot down my thoughts.  I haven't been reading much either.  I have six books I have yet to finish.  I'm not exercising, cleaning, organizing, and I have reminders on my phone to make sure I do these darn things.   I need to get it together.

This time last year I was trying the Ruth Soukup challenges from her books.  I failed miserably.  One day is not enough time for my clutter.  I did however donate ten boxes to Salvation Army in July and will be donating another six this week.  My plan is to donate one more time by the end of the year.

I've made an End of the Year Plan... Yay! Okay, not really.  If I would have done what I said I was going to last year, I would be buying a house and 100% organized right now.   So this is me declaring my life a mess and it needs cleaning up... again.  My dream/Goal is to become a minimalist.  I have been watching videos on Youtube.  Now, I don't want to get rid of everything I have.  I want to reduce what I have to the important things and stop buying crap I don't need.  I will never give up on my books, NEVER.  So don't dare ask me to do that.  I also need to get my health in order.  I have gained a lot of weight recently and all my pants are pretty snug.  I also look gross when I'm sitting.  While I was thinking about ways to improve my life, I realized I spend most of my off time eating and playing Facebook games. YES, I said it, I play Facebook games.  I started to make a list of things I want to work on.  So this is where I'll start, then reevaluate in 30 days.

1. Make a Budget
2. Organize home and digital files
3. Donate to Salvation Army 
4. Reduce Social media & games
5. Read more (15 books by January 1)
6. Exercise (start at 3x a week)
7. Bring lunch to work. 

Challenge Accepted

I started a challenge with Ruth Soukups 31 days of Living Well & Spending Zero and 31 Days to a Clutter Free Life.  Yes, I'm doing both at once.  I'm pushing myself to get my home and life organized and prepared for the next chapter in my life.  If you don't know who Ruth Soukup is you can check out her website Living Well Spending Less. I saw one of her books at Barnes and Noble and thought, "I need this in my life".  After reading Living Well, Spending Less I bought all her books.  I don't own the journal though.

I attempted the challenge last summer but was unsuccessful due to work.  Things have changed and I'm so ready for the challenge this time around.  I'm working through two of her books but starting them at different times.  Day 1 of Living Well & Spending Zero started Wednesday, unfortunately day 2 I worked in Oakland and when I got home at 6:15, I fell asleep as soon as I laid  on my bed.  I didn't realize how tired I was.  So, Here I am working on day 2 before work and my daughter will finish it tonight.  We are organizing the kitchen pantry.  It looks like we will be eating a lot of canned veggies and pasta for the next 30 days.  I buy my pasta and canned goods when my store has them on sale. You know those sales, 5 for $5 and so on.  I also bought a lot of soup.  My freezer is pretty empty at the moment and my fridge needs to be completely cleaned out.  I'm afraid to see if there is a science experiment in there.

Day 3 (tomorrow) will be easy. Meal planning.  I want to start meal prepping, but looking at what I have to use, it's not going to happen.  I can however make lunches for work.  Not as healthy as I would have liked.

Day 1 of 31 Days to a Clutter Free Life is just getting the basics down.. Days 2 will be a breeze as its the Entry way of our home.  We don't really have one but there is a closet at our entrance that I will clean and organize tomorrow when I get home from work.  Seems easy, right?

Well I'm off to work.. It's gonna be a long night.  Graduations and Memorial Day weekend.. Bring on the party people looking for beer...

Conversations With Strangers

Being a pedestrian has it's perks.  How often do you talk to strangers while going to doctor appointments, grocery shopping, or work?  Not at all if you drive yourself, right?  For a long time I would put headphones on and ignore the world as I traveled to my destinations.  I was always afraid to chat with people on the bus or at the corner while I waited for the light to change.  We were raised not to talk to strangers as if all other humans were some terrifying beast.   Yes, there are some scary people in the world and we may be at risk sometimes while out and about.  Don't worry, I don't go anywhere with these strangers.

 People want connection, even for a moment with a stranger.  People want to feel noticed, heard, and a little less lonely.  Most of my brief conversations are not pleasant, but the ones that last just long enough for me to get to my destination are the ones I know made a difference in someones life.  Even if all I did was smile and say Hello.

When speaking to the homeless, I always remind myself that they may not have full mental capabilities anymore.  I usually just listen to their stories, offer food, and let then be on their way.  It's heart breaking to hear about their families and old life.  Then there are ones who just want to talk about what a nice day it is. Their happiness is a pleasant sight which gives me hope.

There are the older ladies who are lonely. Kids don't visit anymore because everyone is too busy.  I see pictures of grand kids all the time.  If only their children could see the pride in these ladies eyes as they speak of family and all the accomplishments made in life.

Recently I have been chatting it up with random people everywhere I go.  Some are customers from my store.  I don't remember them, but they know me.  It's still weird when that happens.  My last conversation was about traffic and how every driver seems to be in such a hurry.  As we walked he told me that he enjoys riding his bike to work when the weather permits.  He also enjoys taking walks to Starbucks on his lunch breaks.  Then it turns into me listening to this man talking about his wife and how awesome she is.  I wonder if she knows how much he loves her and admires her hard work.

My favorite conversations are the ones I'm not participating in.  Just listening to strangers on the bus or at Starbucks chat about celebrities, world events, their families, and politics is entertaining and inspiring.  It is rare that I hear arguments.  What I hear and see in these conversations are strangers coming together to educate and understand opposing views, or just bragging about who has the more funny or successful kids/ grand kids.

I didn't realize how much of the world I was missing out on until I broke my headphones.

My Spending Habits Suck.

Unknown Source :(

I had a financial goal for 2017 and I've already put myself behind.  So here I am reminding myself that I need to buy only what I need.  As I look at the new bikini and socks I bought today.  I did need a new bathing suit and socks for work.  Still, I bought a scarf and junk food for my kids.  We didn't need those. I recently spent money on fans for the house.  After I bought them I felt regret, but I'm hoping they will save me money in the long run. Fans are better than air conditioners, right?

I've been reading Ruth Soukup's book Living Well Spending Less. I also bought her other books, 31 Days of Living well & Spending Zero, and 31 Days to a Clutter Free Life.  I bought them last year and read them all.  Taking notes and planning my own financial overhaul.  I hit a road block when work became hectic with long hours.  I let it all fall to pieces.  I am going to give it a go again.  I'm sure the reader is supposed to do each challenge one at a time, but I'm going all in and challenging myself. I'm cracking the whip and putting my finances, spending, and organization in check.  I have 3 goals with this challenge.

1. Meal Prepping - Going to wing it this week, hopefully I can find good recipes to use. 
2. Buy necessities ONLY.  I keep buying things that I don't need right this minute.  Including junk food at work. 
3. Remove the clutter and reorganize.  What's that phrase?  "Messy house, messy mind" or something like that.  

Now that work isn't needing me 12+ hours a day I can focus on myself and what is needed at home.  Tomorrow is my day off and I will start with my meal prep and organize my fridge.  I also need to clean out my closet and storage closet.  In order to get the rest of my apartment organized the storage closet has to be ready for the items worth keeping.  I can't remember the last time I actually looked in the closet.  Maybe I should be afraid haha.  No, I'm so ready for this change in my life.  

WTF, My Body is Angry

My health has been going down hill lately.

I'm exhausted, my skin is breaking out and itching like crazy, and I'm in a crappy mood for no reason.  I don't know what caused this so I plan on detoxing for a few days.   At first I thought I was having an allergic reaction.  I changed soaps, laundry detergent, and lotions.  My skin is still blotchy and itchy.  My face and chest is seriously breaking out, I'm guessing my face broke out from the hair products I'm using now.  I'm tired of feeling itchy all day.  Scratching my skin off.  This has been going on for a few weeks now.  I think it's time to go to the doctor and get an allergy test and also see a dermatologist for what I think may be hives.  A coworker thinks its just stress but I disagree.  I don't feel stressed.  I'm working less and sleeping more. So where is the stress?  I am eating way too much crap though. So maybe, just maybe I'm eating something that is causing all this.

My skin looks awful right now.  The photo collage below is from this morning.  Fresh out of the shower.  My face and chest are covered in acne, some are cystic acne which I have not dealt with in a few years. My arms are blotchy, dry and extremely itchy.  I've been using Lubriderm Fragrance Free lotion, but it doesn't seem to be helping.  Time for a detox with lots of water, fresh fruits and veggies.

UGH... Acne and blotchy skin. 

FBGM...

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Plain and simple... Fuck Bitches Get Money! No time for Bull Shit.

I'm keeping my goals to myself and one other.  What I do in private is no ones business. My income, bank account, and next move are private, I clearly have no sex life since I work a lot and that's okay. I'm tired of the drama, gossip, and disloyalty.  What happened to helping, and supporting each other?
I need to find like minded people.  My inner circle will stay the same, but it's time to build around the Yin and Yang.


Virg- You are the Yin to my Yang, or is it the other way around. Haha

XOXO

Getting Inked... Finally

I've been wanting to get a tattoo for a while.  I wanted to cover up the Jack Skellington I have on my arm. He was once a part of a tattoo collage idea I had a long time ago.  Things have changed.  I asked friends and did some research before picking the shop.  I received a lot of Raves about Delta Art & Tattoo in Pittsburg CA.  I called to see if there was someone to speak to in person about what I wanted.  They had time, and I rushed over to hopefully speak to a guy named Rich.  I found Rich on Instagram, he has some wicked work. I chatted with Jason about the work he was doing at the moment. I quickly changed my mind about who was doing my tattoo and we discussed possibilities for my tattoo and I made an appointment.  I came in Friday April 7 for a 3 hour session.  On my way there I was called into work, but told them it would have to wait until after my appointment. There was no way I was canceling.  I had to cancel my first appointment due to work; Jason was a sweetheart and rescheduled me. I am grateful for his kindness as I've been waiting too long to get this done.  Jason had a great collage of autumn foliage including one of my favorite flowers, the sunflower.  Dahlia is my other favorite which is also an autumn flower (not in this tattoo).  We get started and I let him know that this session wasn't just about the tattoo but some much needed pain therapy.  Stress with work gave me an itch for pain.  I was relaxed and reading my book most of the time.  He'd ask how I was doing every so often and I made a snarky remark about it not hurting.  He offered to make it hurt for me.  He worked on me for about 2.5 hours... He had another client coming in at 6 and I had to get to work.  Jason is an awesome artist and a cool cat.  I can't wait for my next session.

New Blog Design

Blogger has these new designs and I thought I would try one out.  I don't know how I like it since it removed all my sidebar links. I like the simplicity of the design. My blog looks clean and lovely. It also looks unfriendly. I've always been one to share the blogs and websites I love.  Not being able to have links free to click for all is a little different.  I wonder how I'll like it for the next few weeks.  I am not one to be all about me... But, we'll see....

Lisa

Way Back When

My dog Roscoe and I when we lived in San Jose California 1977

Dang It!

As I try to clean up my digital life I am getting frustrated. I have always saved my passwords and screen names, just in case.  Now I can't retrieve some of these accounts due to wrong passwords and my confusion of which email I used as a back up.  Hopefully I will be able to fix all this mess soon. I really want to get back to writing and using the other blogs I opened. Also, I want to clean up my online profiles.

I have failed horribly.

2016 Wasn't All That Bad, For Me...

Well hello there,

It's been a long time since I have had the desire to write.  Work was a crash course in retail in 2016.  It was worth it though, it helped me gain my promotion to Service Manager.  So much happened last year that I could have written about.  I chose to live in the moment and go with the flow of life. I didn't over analyze or overthink every step I took.  I just worked my ass off and kept moving forward.  When I did finally sit down and think about what I was doing and my next move, it was relaxed and focused.

I also quit dating, sex, and shaving... Oh yea, I quit sex and shaving.

I learned not shaving saves money (DUH) and makes me sweat less.  Also my hair doesn't grow long at all.  Having hair in places I'm not used to wasn't as bad as I thought it be.  When I decided to shave again I became annoyed within the first hour.  I started sweating and itching. UGH!! Gross.  Oh, and sex, I just don't care for it as much as I thought.  Yes, its fantastic, I enjoy it, but I don't desire it the way I used to.  Maybe because I don't have a significant other?  I don't know.  I did notice somehow everyone has become unattractive and annoying when they try to pick up on me.  I've become awfully picky about companionship.  This may also explain why I no longer have friends either.  Everyone annoys me. I have no time for peoples bull shit.  I've kept to myself for most of 2016.  I'm not sure if this pattern will change in 2017.  I enjoy being alone much more these days.

2016 brought me to a place of calm and meditation.  I did more yoga, self reflection, and focused on my work.  I'm excited and ready for whatever comes my way for 2017.  I have a few goals I want to complete this year, and I will.  No doubt about it.  Things have changed and definitely for the better.  One thing I know for sure, writing will become more frequent.  I missed it and it's time to get back into it.

xoxo,

Lisa

I'm Tired Of The Foot Pain

I was recently diagnosed with Plantar Faciitis.  I don't know how to explain how I feel about it.  Frustrated? Confused? I just don't know.  I have walked everywhere most of my life.  I'm a pedestrian.  I'm on my feet all the time.  Always have been.  So why now? After I join the gym and try to be 100% serious about my health do I get foot problems?  My left foot has more going on than Plantar Faciitis, I have pain I can't explain in other parts of my foot.  I've had X-rays and I'm about to have a MRI to see if there is anything else.  If not, I'm screwed.  Physical therapy is the next step, I'm waiting for their call.   This issue is causing problems at work. I am half the speed I used to be, so my work is falling behind.  My Supervisor and I discussed the situation and she is doing her best to help me.  I want to hike, jog, and be able to participate in life without being in pain.  I have a feeling this is going to be something I will have to deal with and there will be no fixing it.

Cleaning up

With my foot being a pain and my work schedule being inconstant, It's hard for me to get things done at home sometimes.  I really need to do some spring cleaning/de-clutter in this house.  So I made a list with the hopes of completing my cleaning within 60 days.  Some clean ups will take more than one day due to my hoarding.  The reason for this de-cluttering is to sell or donate as much as possible.  I would like to reduce the clutter and start my non-consumerist lifestyle.  I've been trying to start this a few times.  Slowly getting there, but not quite.  My kids are gamers and artists so it's hard not to spend money.  Now, they are both old enough to get jobs of their own to pay for all the extras they want.  My kids are frugal, always buying used games and refurbished equipment.  Unfortunately we can't buy used art supplies, at least not that I know of.   My daughter just spent $80 of her birthday money on supplies and complained.  I couldn't help but laugh.  We have discussed selling her art and I think we may just do that.

This clean up will also help us prepare for a future move.  Yes, move... I want so bad to move away and start fresh somewhere else.  In 2 years my youngest will be 18 and I made it clear that I want to move as soon as she graduates from high school. So we have 2 years to save money, do research for a new place, and reduce the items we own to basic necessities.  Of course things can change, but so far, this is the plan.  Best part, the kids are totally in on this plan.  I know 2 years sounds like a long time, but you just never know what might happen and time flies...  So I'm starting today.

So here's the de-clutter plan.  One room or section of my house a day until it's completed.  Like i said above, I'd like to complete this task in 60 days.  I have a feeling it will take me longer as some of the days I work will not leave me enough time to really get much done.  Each friday I will decide what rooms will be done based on my schedule for the next week.  The days I have off will obviously get the more time consuming jobs.  I expect to work on at least 5 tasks a week.

Since I don't have much time today before work, I'm starting small.  I will work on my nightstands and headboard.  I'm only using 1 nightstand, but once the second one is emptied out and cleaned, it will go into my storage closet instead of taking up space in my bedroom.  My storage closet is the true first task on the list and will take me through the weekend  to work on it.  I have a mid-shift, closing shift, the mid-shift. so not much time to keep it moving on the tasks at home.  I'll do my best because mid-shifts wear me out and I usually go straight to bed when I get home.  I can't get the apartment cleaned up if i can't put things away in storage.  Hopefully I can pick up a few flower boxes from work to help me with organizing.

Spring 2016

It's been six months since I last posted.  I am still on this journey of mindful happiness.  It has become a part of my life.  For a short time this past winter I lost sight of it. Work had become stressful and it made me so exhausted that all I would do after work was sleep.  I would sleep through my days off.  It wasn't the work itself, but the negativity I was surrounded with.  Once I started doing more solo work in the store I felt much better.  I also stopped showing up early, leaving later, and coming in on my off days to check out how things were going.  I rarely shop on my off days now.  Then, I hurt my left foot. I have no idea what I did.  Some days it hurts so bad I can hardly walk, but I have to.   The Doctor says The X-Ray shows I have plantar Fasciitis and now I'm waiting to see what else they find with an MRI.  I'm trying to stay positive and hope all I need is some physical therapy.  What sucks is I paid for a gym membership and have only been a few times because of my injury.  I know, lame excuse.

The doctor also wants me to change my eating habits.  We discussed the Low carb High Fat lifestyle and I am working my way there.  At the moment I have a lot of high carb foods in my home and I am slowly eating them while trying to add more high fat and veggies.  I think by next paycheck i will have eaten majority of my carbs and will be on a full LCHF diet.  I'm not going to force my kids to do a complete change, but their dinners will fit with my new eating plan.


I will discuss my new journey into this healthier lifestyle.  I truly hope I have the will power and faith to stick with it.


Wish me luck...

An Interesting Insight to my Mindful Happiness

I like this quote.  It's something my old self would say with a passive aggressive attitude.  I guess I can say I still have a 4 foot wall up that I can peek over to see whose coming my way.   I can also say I have built a nice little gate that never locks.  It easily swings open to those who want to visit.  They can come and go as they please.  No one is locked out or in.  It doesn't matter if you want to stay or not.  I welcome short term visitors.  Actually I prefer it these days.  There was a time I would have wanted, no, needed people to stay, hopefully forever.  Not anymore.  My journey of Mindful Happiness has freed me from possession, obsession, jealousy, and attachment.  It also has me lost for words, freed from negative emotions, and loss of remembering dreams.  I am in a place of peace and contentment.  With this peace has come silence.  I no longer have anything to say.  I never thought of my words being important in the past, yet I always had something to say.  Hoping someone would hear me,  notice me.  Not anymore, I like being invisible now.  I'm keeping the weight I lost off, because I am no longer emotionally eating.  I enjoy alone time more than having company.  It seems this short wall I have up may be blocking some emotions/feelings I think I should have: Desire, motivation, passion, and love.  My love for things has dwindled to semi-likes and the love for people is gone.  Of course I love my kids and I love myself.  My desire to be with someone is no where to be seen.  I look at and talk with  people and see nothing appealing about them.   I have been forcing myself to get out there and socialize.  I am failing horribly, or am I...  I enjoy talking to strangers or going on dates, but after an hour, I cant wait to get away.  I'm okay with meeting up with friends, but not for too long.  I just want to quietly enjoy the world behind a book or drink, alone.  I have no interest in doing creative things of any kind.  Exercising has become dull.  Even blogging has lost its luster.  In a way, I have become numb; I just don't care anymore.  I need simplicity and nothing more.

Who knew mindful happiness would do this to me..   Oh well, I'm happy and don't want to change it.

Think Happy, Be Happy :)

Happy August!

I can't believe how fast this year has gone by and I'm sure I say that every year.  July came and went quickly, I didn't get as much organizing as I would have liked done. I did get the important stuff done though.  I organized my room and made a little meditation spot. I cleaned out my closets again and got rid of a few things.  I went out and did things alone.  I did a dating myself type thing. It was boring. I need someone to talk to, but I will learn to like being alone more. I know I will.



August is all about choices... Better Choices!!

For my Mindful Happiness Project, August will be Making Healthier Choices & starting my Financial Stability goal.  The only financial part I am starting is the non-consumerism, I will do this by using the reduce, reuse, recycle system. Using up what I have and only buying what is necessary.  This month, school supplies, clothes, and school registration are the necessities.  Recently, our toaster oven died. RIP Toasty... My kids really want me to get another one, but it will have to wait.  My kids will just have to learn to use a real oven. Though we do not have a toaster and now the waffles in the freezer will have to be tossed. Oh well.  I have books I will sell or donate, fabric that I either need to make into something or give to someone who can.  I have computer parts and what not that need to be rid of.  I was going to purchase 2 garbage bins for recycling, but I have decided to give up soda as part of my Healthy choices. I don't think I need the bins anymore.  Boom! Saving money already.

Healthier Choices are so much harder. I enjoy food so much. I'm addicted to soda, okay more like addicted to sugar and caffeine.  Both are unhealthy, I know.  So I am really trying this time.  I made tea this morning, filled my Brita pitcher, and made juice.  My plan when it comes to food is to finish off whatever is in the house, and when I shop I will make better and healthier choices.  I still have chips and popsicles in the house.  I'll be having chips with my tuna salad sandwich in a second.  I think as long as I eat within proper portions I should be okay.  We have a lot of canned fruits and boxed meals because I was trying to get the kids to cook more.  It didn't work. This time I will try a more fresh approach.  More salads, crock pot cooking and fresh fruits and veggies.  I'm also looking into a more sugar free lifestyle. I know I can't completely remove it, but if I can reduce it, I will.  Time to do some research and find recipes that will taste delicious but sugar free.

Accumulative goals for the month. 

Another healthy choice I am making is Fitness.  I made up a 90 day challenge for me to do.  I compiled a variety of fitness challenges and accounts, put them into a calendar for myself to work out to.  I have Daily, weekly and monthly goals. I didn't add arm exercises to the list on the left and a friend pointed it out.  Oopsy, I do have a plan for my arms and other body parts, I swear.  I broke the 90 day challenge down into 3 months to keep myself motivated and focused.  As time goes on, each month will become more intense, adding weights, time and exercises.  I will share more about this once I have everything set up.

Well I guess that is all for now.  Have a Happy August